"Geo, let's postpone our next meeting I just have not had time or felt like completing the actions I said I would last meeting. I need longer to do what I wanted to do." Sounds reasonable, right? There are times when things get on top of us, an unexpected event or series of events confront us, and we have to delay what we intended to do. Being flexible when the unforeseen happens is a great attitude to have, and is essential if we are to achieve our vision.
However, in the situation stated above, I smelled a proverbial rat. The person, let's call him Martin, came to me asking for help because he lacked confidence and suffered from depression. Martin had begun strong on our plan of getting him back on top of his game. He had prepared a plan of action, faced some of his fears, and had made some great strides pushing out of his comfort zone. Then he got some criticism and rejections as he attempted to make progress through expanding his network. All his old demons had returned, and twice now Martin had delayed our meeting. Like many of us when plans don't go as expected, we delay confronting our performance or actions and facing the music. We procrastinate, hoping things will get better. They seldom do unless we do something differently.
One of the most important activities highly successful people build a habit of doing is to conduct regular reviews. Effective teams and organisations demand it. Win, lose or draw, we need to keep score. I love a the game of golf. I have moved recently to a new area, and joined a new golf club. It is a great course, lots of challenge, beautiful views, and have met some amiable people. Yet something is missing. There are not regular competitions. You just play against yourself. Most people do not even keep score! If a ball is hit poorly or out of play, the golfer "takes a mulligan", which means they forget that shot and play another as if the previous shot had not happened. How can we possibly get better if we fail to keep score? What we do does count in life, and to not review how we have done will keep us in mediocrity.
Not only does every golf shot need a review, so does every important area of our life, especially if our income, our well-being, our career are not going the way we want. So how are you at keeping score? What do you do to recover from bad shots, face your fears or disappointments so you can get back on track? Next blog I'll outline one of the most effective and powerful ways of review that is guaranteed to get you heading towards your life's best vision with increased resolve and passion.